Are you wrestling with the thought of a Valentine’s Day without wine?
It’s not surprising – drinking is so often tied to the idea of romance. We’ve been conditioned to believe that a candlelit dinner must include a bottle of wine and that alcohol is the secret ingredient to a special evening.
So if you’re sober this Valentine’s Day, it’s completely normal to feel a bit weird about it.
Maybe you’re worried the night won’t feel as magical, that you’ll be missing out, or your partner will be disappointed.
But before you go down that rabbit hole, let me offer you a different perspective…
In today’s video, I’m sharing a Valentine’s Day Drinking Horror Story—a cautionary tale of what really happens when alcohol takes centre stage.
(Spoiler alert: It’s probably not the romantic evening you’re imagining…)
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A Valentine’s Day drinking horror story
From the first drink while getting ready to losing focus on your partner, making questionable decisions and wrestling with the urge to drink more and more… alcohol rarely delivers the night you were hoping for. Instead of deep connection, it often leaves you feeling more disconnected than ever.
By the end of the night, you’re likely to feel distant, frustrated and full of regret. No one wants to wake up the next morning feeling groggy, embarrassed and confused about where things went wrong.
Why not do something different this year?
If drinking has never actually given you the Valentine’s Day you wanted, why keep trying? This year, why not prove to yourself that romance isn’t found at the bottom of a bottle?
Imagine a night where you’re fully present, engaged in meaningful conversation and actually enjoying your partner’s company… without the haze of alcohol dulling the moment.
Sobriety delivers everything alcohol promises. Whatever it is you’re looking for at the bottom of a bottle, you will find it in alcohol-free living, if you just give it a chance. The love, the connection, the joy… it’s all there, just waiting for you to experience it properly.
14 responses
Great blog Kate . Your wise words have kept me sober for 2 years and 9 months. Prior to that I struggled to go 3 days . Everything you have said about Valentines night is so true . The romance in my relationship returned almost as soon as I stopped drinking . It was just yet another gift that sobriety delivered . Never going back to drinking . No need to.
I’m honoured to have helped you find freedom from alcohol, but the credit for remaining sober is all yours Tanya. What a perfect way to rekindle romance, a true love story.
77 days alcohol free today. Not worried about Valentine at all. Love feeling clear headed and in the moment.
Wow, 77 days! Waking up hangover free never gets old, believe me. Have a fabulous Valentine’s Day and enjoy the weekend that follows with a clear head too.
Great blog and so true. I was the one scoping out the wait staff for my “celebration” drink(ssss)… looking back, I can only say that it’s not a great way to spend a romantic evening.
What a relief that I no longer am that person.
Good to hear you are going strong and no longer chasing the next drink. A romantic evening is about connecting with your partner and alcohol does the opposite and creates distraction. Wishing you a very happy Valentine’s Day on Friday!
love that phrase if ”those thoughts continue unsupervised….” timely reminder for me about where your brain goes if you give it some slack daydreaming about the fantasy of alcohol in company. I’m single and glad about that just now- but there is so much in this video that I can use. Nice to see and hear you always! Thanks xx
Kate, I quit drinking with support from you and your team and your course. My husband also stopped drinking, started as support to me but he just felt so much better. This Valentine’s Day, we will be 1380 days alcohol free. Our life and our relationship is so, so much better. Thank you Kate!
Congratulations both, 1380 days sober is something to celebrate indeed! Wishing you a happy and healthy Valentine’s Day.
Drinking alcohol really is exhausting, your night is wasted checking how much wine is left in the bottle and going to the toilet.
I’ve just read glorious rock bottom by bryony Gordon it’s fantastic.
I totally agree, the mental gymnastics required as a drinker are exhausting! Great book choice, a powerful and unflinchingly honest memoir. I have more uplifting success stories from my students that I hope you find inspiring too: https://thesoberschool.com/success-stories/
Again great video always explaining the truth about alcohol
Love the videos they give me strength and encouragement to carry on
Hi Val, I am so pleased you are finding them motivational and empowering. Keep going!
Excellent as always
You must wake up in the middle of the night and think of something and write it down very entertaining and true well done