Does this sound like you?
You spend a lot of time thinking about your drinking: worrying and wondering whether you should quit.
You buy books about alcohol-free living and follow sober bloggers on Instagram. You wake up hungover and vow you’ll quit – only to question that decision a few hours later.
It’s exhausting, not being able to decide what to do.
My video today is all about the (totally understandable) reasons why we get stuck not taking action – and what you can do about it!
Reason 1 – Sobriety seems like a big decision
Here’s how to get round this: Take a break from drinking instead. You don’t need to be 100% certain about the future to get started – plus it’s impossible to know how you’ll feel in a month’s time, never mind a year or several decades away!
Taking a break for at least six weeks allows you to test drive sobriety properly. You’re taking action and getting into a new routine without the pressure of signing up for life. Once your break is over, you can always go back to drinking if you want – or set another short-term goal.
Reason 2 – You’re weighing up another option (moderation)
Here’s how to get round this: If you want to focus on cutting back, you can of course choose to do that. Just put a time frame on it. Check in with yourself – how long have you already spent trying to cut back? How many different rules and tricks have you tried?
Write this down so you have a record of what you’ve done so far. I cannot stress enough – you must write this down. Do not trust your memory to be a reliable witness for this. You need actual data about how this drug is affecting your one and only life.
Reason 3 – You’re not sure if it’s worth it
Here’s how to get round this: Keep a diary. Set a reminder on your phone so you remember to write a sentence or two about how you’re feeling, morning and night. Do this every day, regardless of whether you’ve been drinking or not.
By writing this down, you’re gathering important data about how alcohol genuinely affects you. This information is gold – it will show you, over time, how drinking truly impacts your quality of life.
Reason 4 – You’ve tried and failed before
Here’s how to get round this: Come and get some support. It’s hard to take action when you’re quitting drinking alone and trying to figure everything out by yourself. If the pain of “failing” last time was so bad that you can’t bring yourself to try again, that is a sign that you need some coaching and help to manage your mindset.
It is possible to stay focused on your goals AND treat them seriously, whilst also being compassionate and learning from your mistakes. My Getting Unstuck course will show you exactly how to do that – click here for more information.