“I truly believed I was the only woman in the world who felt this way about alcohol.”
When I got this email from a student of mine this week, I knew I had to talk about it.
If you’re a grey-area drinker, the chances are your drinking doesn’t feel “normal” but it doesn’t look like one of those clichéd stereotypes either.
This can leave you feeling lonely, ashamed and lost.
But you’re not alone – and there’s nothing wrong with you, as I explain in this week’s video.
Why grey-area drinking is so hidden
If you’re a grey-area drinker, the chances are your life looks fine on the outside, but doesn’t feel great on the inside. You do a brilliant job of hiding your drinking from others and excel in other areas of your life. This kind of drinking isn’t very dramatic or remarkable – so we rarely see it depicted on TV shows or talked about more generally.
Many women hide their drinking
Take it from me – your experience isn’t out of the ordinary. It just seems that way to you right now because of the stigma around this subject. Think about how well you hide your drinking, and how many times you’ve faked being fine despite a horrible hangover. Who else might be doing that too?
Why this matters
If you’re a grey-area drinker and want to change, you need compassion, curiosity and understanding – not shame and judgement. But when you’re struggling with this on your own – or you’re convinced there’s something wrong with you – it’s hard to bring in that compassion or see the bigger picture. Making lasting change happen is a lot harder when you’re isolated and alone.
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