The other day I got an email from someone who follows my blog. She wrote:
“I’m so mad with myself. I managed almost a whole month without drinking but for some reason I bought some wine one Saturday evening, at home alone.
“I only had one glass that first night and I thought I had reset myself and things were OK. Unfortunately there have been many more drinks since then. I’ve lost control and I’m back to square one again.”
If this story sounds familiar, you’ll want to check out my response today…
The tolerance trap
When you take a break from drinking and then go back to it, your tolerance to the drug is really low. So you don’t need as much in order to feel the effects. This can trick people into thinking they’ve cracked moderation and are in control, because initially they can have one and then stop.
Don’t be fooled – this is only temporary. The next time you drink, you’ll need a bit more to get the same effect. And then more the next time… until things are back to where they were before. Often it’s not the first drink after a break that’s the problem – it’s what it opens the door to later that’s the real issue.
Alcohol vs other drugs
Alcohol is the only drug that we’re obsessed with trying to control. We make alcohol addiction about the person – we blame the individual – rather than looking at the real problem, which is the drug.
You don’t really ever have control over an addictive, mind-altering drug. We certainly don’t talk about controlling nicotine, cocaine or heroin. People don’t take a month off vaping and then say, “OK, that’s it – I’ll definitely be able to control this now!”
Real freedom is hiding in plain sight
Moderation is tiring. Think of all the effort that goes into trying to drink less – waiting until a set time, buying smaller bottles, jumping through various different hoops… and then after all that, you still don’t feel satisfied because you’re not drinking in the way you truly want to.
That’s a lot of discomfort to put yourself through for very little reward. So what I invite you to consider is this: could you get more satisfaction from not drinking at all? What if alcohol-free living was where the real freedom, the real satisfaction lies? It’s just hiding in plain sight, waiting for you to jump on board.