At this time of year, I often hear from people worried they’ll be missing out if they stay sober on holiday.
They can’t imagine skipping cocktails by the pool or saying no to wine with their evening meal.
When you’re feeling this way, it’s so easy to talk yourself into giving up on your sober goals.
I want to help you reframe the fear of missing out and see things in a different light.
I explain all in this week’s video.
Remember: everyone is missing out
Everyone is missing out on something, all of the time. It doesn’t matter whether they drink or not. Everyone is missing out on something and it is impossible to have a full or complete experience of anything.
When you go on holiday to a new place, every single day is full of decisions about what you do and don’t do. Will you sunbathe or sightsee? Stay put or explore the area? Which restaurant will you go to? What will you order? You can’t do it all.
What are you happy to miss out on?
Once you really get your head around the idea that everyone is missing out on something, your focus can shift from “Am I going to miss out?” to “Ok, what is it I’m happy to miss out on?”
Personally, I’m really happy to miss out on hangovers whilst on holiday. I’m also happy to miss out on the obsession that comes with trying to control alcohol at a time when I want to be relaxing. I don’t want to come home needing another holiday to get over the first one!
What really matters?
When you get back home and people ask how your holiday went, are you going to give them a run down of everything you had to drink? I doubt it. Instead you’ll talk about how much rest you got, what you saw, what the area was like. That’s the stuff that really matters.
If you’ve not experienced a sober holiday before, isn’t it about time you tried one? Why not change the script this year and stop missing out on the kind of break you deserve. It might just be the best upgrade ever.
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