Did you see the singer Adele talking about her sobriety last week?
Her comments were widely reported because she described herself as a “borderline alcoholic” and said she really missed drinking.
There’s so much I’d love to say directly to Adele about alcohol-free living…
But as I’m pretty sure Adele doesn’t follow The Sober School 😉 I thought I’d share a few key takeaways with you instead!
1. If your sober journey has been up and down… you’re not alone
This isn’t the first time Adele’s spoken about ditching alcohol. In 2021 she told Oprah that she’d quit completely after drinking a lot during lockdown and getting divorced. And now, two years later, we’re hearing she’s three and a half months sober.
I often see people being really hard on themselves when they don’t do this “perfectly” and stop for good the first time they try. For me personally, I also crashed and burned a few times before things clicked for good – it was hard to stop without the right help and support.
2. You don’t need to be an alcoholic to quit drinking
Adele described herself as being a “borderline alcoholic” in her 20s. There’s actually no such thing as a borderline alcoholic and today the word “alcoholic” is also pretty dated. Nowadays, we tend to think of drinking on a continuum.
At The Sober School, I work exclusively with women in the “grey area”. This means drinking is causing you problems at home and on a personal level, but to the outside world, your life probably looks ok. Your drinking might be well hidden from others, but it’s causing you pain – and that’s what matters.
3. Sobriety doesn’t have to mean deprivation
Adele told fans in Vegas, “I stopped drinking maybe three and a half months ago. It’s boring. I mean, I was literally borderline alcoholic for quite a lot of my 20s, but I miss it so much.” She told a fan: “So enjoy your whiskey sour. I’m very, very jealous.”
It was a shame these comments got so widely reported, because they repeat an unfortunate myth about sobriety – that it’s boring and you always feel as if you’re missing out. Trust me, alcohol-free living does not have to be depriving, if you do the right mindset work!
Nowadays, I never think “Poor me, I can’t drink.” Instead I think, “Yes! I don’t have to drink. I don’t need that crap any more.” That type of freedom – where alcohol becomes small and irrelevant – is what I want for you too. That is true alcohol free living.