If you’re drinking more than you think is “normal,” the chances are you often try to hide it.
Maybe you sometimes pour your wine into a mug? Or perhaps you like a quick drink on your own before anyone else joins you?
Even if you live alone, I suspect there are things you do to make sure no one else finds out what’s happening behind closed doors.
I was pretty adept at hiding my drinking too, so I know how exhausting it is. If you’re a secret drinker, there are three things I recommend you do next.
I explain all in this week’s video…
1. Stop comparing yourself to others
Remember, if you’re great at hiding your drinking, then it stands to reason that other people are too. If you leave parties early so you have time to pick up a bottle and spend the evening drinking the way you really like (alone), then other people are doing this too. Stop comparing your insides to other people’s outsides. You are not the only person who drinks in secret and goes to great lengths to hide it.
2. Stop asking other people what they think
I often work with women who will say something like: “My husband thinks my drinking is fine and I’m overreacting. Could he be right?” When we explore this further, we discover that the husband / friend / family member doesn’t actually know the full picture. Which makes sense, because if you’re hiding your drinking, how could they? Only you can make an informed decision about your alcohol consumption, so be wary of placing a lot of weight on other people’s opinions.
3. Make sure you get some support
If you’re hiding your drinking, I suspect you’re feeling quite isolated right now. You have secrets that weigh heavily on you. You’re trying to figure this out on your own, whilst beating yourself up, feeling annoyed and wondering what’s wrong with you. (Hint: there is nothing wrong with you!) We’re not meant to do the hard things in life alone.