Back when I was drinking too much, but I didn’t know what to do about it, I tried hard to ‘be good’ from Monday to Thursday.
I could get my head around staying alcohol-free during the working week. But a sober Friday, Saturday and Sunday? That was not going to happen!
Because I wasn’t ready to quit completely, being good during the week seemed like the next best thing.
What I didn’t realise is that there’s a big problem with ‘Monday to Thursday sobriety’.
In fact, there are actually 3 different issues…
You’re teaching yourself that you can’t quit long term
If you’re only ever sober during the working week, what you’re really telling yourself is that alcohol-free living is only ever possible when you’re at work, in a routine and not doing anything fun. Basically – you’re treating sobriety like a strict diet.
Not only are you teaching yourself to believe that you can’t stop properly, you’re also reinforcing the idea that sobriety = hard and boring, whereas drinking = joy. Long term, successful sobriety happens when you realise that you can live a full and happy life without alcohol, no matter what day of the week it is.
You never get time to do the all important mindset work
When you’re only ever stopping for a few days, all you can really do is cross your fingers and hope for the best. You’re not giving yourself enough time to get clear on why you’ve been drinking, tackle the root causes or find some sober tools (i.e. alternative coping mechanisms).
To be happily alcohol-free, you’ll also want to work on your mindset, tackle your limiting beliefs and educate yourself about alcohol. Doing all that stuff takes a little while, and you deserve the time and space to make a proper go of it.
You never, ever get to the good bit!
If you’re only quitting from Monday to Thursday, here’s what you’ve got to know: you’re forcing yourself to repeat the hardest bit of sobriety again and again and again. Seriously – the early days are some of the hardest! So why keep putting yourself through it?
It takes time to find your sober feet, overcome a few challenges, smash some sober firsts and gain a bit of momentum. Studies show that you need 66 days for a new habit to bed in – so it’s hardly surprising that taking four days off here and there isn’t enough.
What to do instead:
You don’t need to quit forever (that’s way too intimidating). But you do need to be able to experience sobriety properly and see what it’s REALLY like. And that means taking a break from drinking for two or three months. That’s when you start to see what it’s really all about.
Taking alcohol off the table for a defined period of time means you can give sobriety 100% and throw yourself into it, whilst feeling safe in the knowledge that at a set point in time, you will stop, review and decide what happens next. What’ve you got to lose?
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