I used to try really hard to ‘be good’ and stay sober from Monday to Thursday.
(I could get my head around staying alcohol free during the working week. But a sober Friday, Saturday and Sunday? That didn’t seem possible).
Because I wasn’t ready to quit completely, being good during the week seemed like the next best thing.
What I didn’t realise is that there’s a huge problem with Monday to Thursday sobriety.
I explain more in this week’s video.
You’re repeating the hardest bit again and again
When you stop for just a few days at a time, you barely get alcohol out of your system, never mind giving yourself enough time to get into a rhythm or have a breakthrough. Without realising it, you’re repeating the toughest bit of sobriety over and over, so it’s no wonder that you think sobriety is unsustainable.
You’re treating sobriety like a diet
If you’re only ever sober during the working week, you teach your brain that alcohol-free living is only ever possible when you’re at work, in a routine and not doing anything fun. Long-term, successful sobriety happens when you realise that you can live a full and happy life without alcohol, no matter what day of the week it is.
You never get time for the deeper work
When you’re only ever stopping for a few days, you never have time to get clear on why you’ve been drinking, tackle some of the root causes, find new, healthy coping mechanisms, work on your mindset, tackle your limiting beliefs or educate yourself about alcohol and how it affects your mind and body.
Here’s a better idea
You don’t need to declare that you’re going to quit forever – that’s way too intimidating. But you do want to be able to experience sobriety properly and see what it’s really like. And that means taking a break from drinking for at least six weeks. Or a couple of months. That’s when you start to see what sobriety is really all about.