Last night’s Oscars got me thinking about what makes a great movie.
In all honesty, if a director had to make a film about my drinking story, it would be incredibly dull.
Watching me fall asleep on the couch after ploughing through a bottle of wine, then going to work hiding a hangover? Not very interesting.
But… that’s kind of my point.
Real life isn’t like the movies. You don’t have to wait until something dramatic happens before you quit.
That’s what I’m talking about in today’s video.
Playing the movie forward
This is a visualisation technique you can use when you’re tempted to have “just one” drink. Imagine your drinking story as a movie: what’s really going to happen if you have one? What would we see taking place later that night and the following day?
Don’t forget that your drinking movie isn’t just 90 minutes, like the ones you see at the cinema. It’s actually going to be about 24 hours long, because that’s how long you deal with the consequences of drinking for. It could actually be longer than that, if you tend to suffer with hangovers for long periods.
Don’t look for the drama
The mistake a lot of people make when they’re weighing up whether or not it’s time for them to quit is this: they start looking for the drama. They’ll say things like, “Well – nothing really bad has happened yet.” “I haven’t had my rock-bottom moment.” “My drinking doesn’t look like the stuff you see in the movies.”
If you’re like most of the women I work with, your drinking story is going to look pretty dull and unremarkable most of the time. You’re just quietly drinking too much at home. Quietly feeling utterly miserable about it. Quietly hiding a killer hangover and all that shame and regret.
Boring drinking is still bad drinking
Maybe no one else sees you drunk and there are no huge consequences in your drinking story. But there’s still all the stuff that YOU notice. That you feel. And the thoughts you have about yourself and your life. That kind of drinking is a long way off “rock bottom”, but it’s still really damaging, especially over time.
What does your boring drinking movie look like?
Let me know about your drinking story in the comments below. When you’re writing your movie, you might want to consider the following:
- How does it start?
- What will we see after a few hours?
- How well do you sleep?
- What will and won’t you do in the morning, when you’re nursing a hangover?
- What extra problems might you be dealing with?
- Who else might be affected by your lethargy, your short temper, your hangover?
- What everyday things are going to be harder?
- Is there something that often happens when you drink, that you’d hate others to know?
- How will sobriety impact your outlook on the day?
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