“I give up.”
In early sobriety, there are days when it feels so tempting to say:
“Enough! I’m fed up. I’m done with this. I’m tired of trying not to drink. I’m not going to bother with sobriety anymore.”
I’ve been there myself.
But before you walk away and slam that sober door shut, there are three things you might want to hear first.
This video has all the details.
Why it can feel good to give up
You get instant relief from the effort of trying, plus you get a break from the doubts and scariness of doing something new. In addition, you avoid the hardness of trying something different and get the relief of being back in your comfort zone instead.
Here’s the catch
But that relief only lasts a short amount of time. After a few hours or a few days, all the other thoughts (that prompted you to stop in the first place) come flooding back. So the relief you get from deciding you’re not going to bother is always very short lived.
Choosing short-term discomfort
You’re used to doing this elsewhere in life – choosing short term discomfort for long term gains. This is what early sobriety is about too. You’re choosing the short term discomfort of sitting with an urge to drink, but in return, you get long term comfort, well being and satisfaction in your life.
It won’t be this hard forever
In other areas of life, you choose short term discomfort without really thinking about it e.g. pushing yourself for an exam, a race, a promotion etc. Why? Because you know it’s a passing phase. This is true with sobriety too. The hard work is at the beginning.
Get excited about alcohol-free living
When you push yourself to reach other goals, you’re generally motivated by a clear idea of what it will be like to get there. Have you got that with sobriety? If not, go out and give your brain something useful to focus on. Seek out people who’ve already quit – like these inspiring ladies here.
Sobriety doesn’t have to be hard – it can be easy, empowering and fun. If you’re looking for help to make sobriety stick, click here for details of my online course.