When I coach women to quit drinking, the topics I love the most are mindset and thought work.
There’s so much deep stuff in there to explore.
But before we get to that, I always spend some time making sure they’re getting the basics right. We all have some basic human needs that must be met.
But you’d be surprised how many women aren’t doing this stuff at all!
Watch this week’s video to make sure you’re not skipping over this either…
Why the basics matter
Urges to drink will be stronger and more frequent when you aren’t taking care of yourself. When you fail to meet your basic human needs for sleep, nourishment, joy and comfort, you’ll experience more cravings. Turning to something outside yourself, like alcohol, then becomes a lot more appealing.
Do you frequently sacrifice your sleep? If you do, you will reduce your ability to handle stress and stay aligned with your sober goals. I know it’s annoying to hear someone say, ‘Just get more sleep!’ when you feel as if it’s out of your control. But it’s one of our basic human needs – so what could you do to get even 30 minutes’ extra sleep a night?
It’s no coincidence that you feel the strongest urges to drink around wine o’clock – a time of day when you’re often hungry and thirsty as well. Many women are in the habit of not snacking, because they don’t want to kill the booze buzz. So how about a little experiment? Have a glass of water and a snack at 4pm every day for a week and see if it makes a difference.
Joy and comfort
Perhaps you inject joy into a boring day by pouring a glass of wine? Or you knock back a beer for comfort after a bad one? Comfort and joy are two more of our basic human needs… so you want to look at how else you could meet them.
What works for you? Is it a walk, a bath, curling up with a book or calling a friend? A mistake a lot of people make is doing things they think they ‘should’ do, such as going to the gym. If a workout genuinely brings you joy at the end of the day, that’s fine… but if it doesn’t, it’s time to find something that does!
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