How do you know when it’s time to quit?
If you’re a grey-zone drinker like I was, the chances are it’s not that clear.
Perhaps your life looks pretty normal from the outside? You’re still showing up and taking care of the 101 things on your to-do list.
You keep drinking much more than you planned to and you regret it afterwards.
So how do you know when you’ve crossed a line?
There are 31 clues to pay attention to and I run through them all in today’s video.
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Here are the 31 clues that your drinking is becoming a problem: how many resonate with you?
- You spend a lot of time thinking about drinking – what, when, where and how much.
- You often promise to “just have one”, but that rarely happens. Once you start, it’s often hard to stop.
- You’ve created lots of rules around alcohol, such as not drinking before a set time and only allowing yourself certain types of drinks.
- You frequently break your own rules.
- You feel ashamed of your drinking and beat yourself up about it.
- You try to hide how much you’re drinking from those closest to you.
- Your partner has expressed concern.
- Your drinking feels like a big, heavy secret – it’s a source of stress and anxiety.
- You dread putting out the recycling bin. Sometimes you dispose of empties away from your home so no one sees how many there are.
- Given the choice, your favourite way to drink is by yourself. Alone, you can have as much as you like without being judged.
- When socialising, you keep a careful eye on everyone else’s glasses to make sure you don’t drink too fast.
- In public, you work hard to be moderate. People would be surprised to discover quite how much you drink at home.
- You’re passionate about running or yoga, so everyone assumes you must be super healthy. This makes you feel like a fraud.
- You’re disappointed – angry, even – if you’re unexpectedly asked to be the designated driver.
- When someone makes a joke about your drinking, you’ll analyse it for hours, wondering why they said it and what they really know.
- You’re often anxious about whether there’s enough alcohol available. Will your supplies last? Should you get more?
- You buy your wine from different shops on rotation because you’re worried the store staff will judge you.
- You delay eating so you can drink first – a full stomach would dampen your buzz.
- You feel bad about rushing through things, such as your child’s bedtime story, but you do. You want that drink.
- You’re regularly blacking out. There are long periods of time that you have no memory of.
- Mornings often begin with you trying to work out who you called last night and what you posted on Facebook.
- You frequently argue with your partner whilst drunk and then cannot remember why the next day.
- You drink to manage your emotions – whether it’s stress, sadness or something else. You have few other coping mechanisms.
- After a change in circumstances, e.g. retirement or leaving a stressful job, you thought your drinking would naturally wind down, but it hasn’t.
- You’re permanently exhausted. Alcohol is seriously affecting the quality of your sleep.
- You rarely have enough energy for the hobbies you used to love.
- Your physical appearance is changing. Your face looks puffier.
- You diet hard during the day, but you’re still putting on weight – you know the empty booze calories aren’t helping.
- You’re scared something bad is going to happen. You’re not sure what, but you’ve had a few close shaves recently e.g. driving when you shouldn’t.
- You keep googling things like, “Am I an alcoholic?”
- You find yourself on websites like this, looking for help.