Opening a bottle used to be my reward whenever I felt I’d worked hard or achieved something.
So when I tried to “be good” and not drink, I’d last a few days, only to go and ruin it with wine 🤦♀️
Looking back now, it was crazy. But it may well be a pattern you can relate to. If it is, today’s blog will help!
Why this is such a sneaky thought
It seems as if you’re just acknowledging your hard work and effort. But the “I’ve been so good” thought also creates feelings of deprivation and permissiveness. That combination of feelings stops sobriety from feeling good for you. So if this thought comes up for you a lot, it’s important to work on it and get your head straight.
What it really means
If you often find yourself thinking “I’ve been so good”, you need to take a look at what else you’re thinking about not drinking. The chances are that you have a lot of thoughts rolling around your head about how alcohol-free living is hard or depriving. Maybe it feels a bit like being on a diet for you? You can stick with it and “be good” for short periods, but your motivation eventually runs out.
Pay attention to what you’re thinking
For long-term success, sobriety needs to become something you want to do. Even when it’s the weekend, a special occasion or a holiday! If you want to take time off from sobriety, it’s because you’re having a thought about it that makes it feel hard. So we need to work out exactly what that is.
Get clear on what you think you’re missing
Don’t let this stuff sit in your head, stewing. Get it down on paper so you can work out what it is you think you’re missing out on. If you struggle to change your thinking or untangle these thoughts yourself, make sure you get support with this – it can be life changing!
I help women with this mindset work on my Getting Unstuck course all the time. Click here to find out more about it.