Before I quit drinking, one of my biggest concerns was the reaction I might get from other people.
I imagined walking into a bar, ordering a non-alcoholic drink, and the entire place going quiet as people turned in shock.
(I know – dramatic or what?!)
Fortunately, a lot has changed in the past nine-and-a-bit years since I quit.
If you’re worried about fitting in as a non-drinker, I’ve got some cool facts and a great mindset hack to share with you in today’s video.
Sobriety is becoming more mainstream
Times are changing – and there’s so much evidence to back this up. Here’s my random little list:
– Almost a third of pub visits in the UK are now alcohol-free
– The number of alcohol-free restaurant visits is even higher (37%)
– Sales of low-alcohol and no-alcohol beers have almost doubled in the past five years
– Gordon’s has created an alcohol-free version of its pink gin after the success of its regular AF version
– Even fictional soap opera pubs have alcohol-free beer on tap!
– Earlier this year I shared this blog post about 64 famous women who don’t drink. I already have 20 new names to add to the list
– The singer Katy Perry recently launched a new range of non-alcoholic aperitifs
– The model Kate Moss was on Desert Island Discs a few weeks back casually talking about how happy she is to be three years sober
Watch your language
I know there will be someone reading this who thinks, “Yeah yeah – that’s all very nice, but in my world, it’s different. Everyone I know still drinks, that’s what we do together, and I won’t fit in if I do something else.”
If you ever find yourself making sweeping statements and using words like “everyone” then take note of that. It’s highly unlikely that everyone you know drinks, but the more you focus on that statement, the truer it will seem.
Flip your filter
Start looking for evidence that people in your life are drinking less. When you do that, you’re more likely to notice what else is available in your local pub, or spot the friend who has quietly stuck to soft drinks all evening.
The most common piece of feedback I get from my Getting Unstuck clients is that they’re surprised to discover their friends don’t drink quite as much as they thought they did. Could it be the same for you?
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