The seasons are changing and that back-to-school feeling is in the air…
If you’ve been drinking more than you planned to over the past few months, now is as good a time as any to turn over a new leaf and get back on track.
But successful sobriety isn’t just about crossing your fingers and hoping for the best. So in today’s video, I share three key tips to help you have a sober September…
Tip 1: Just have one goal
I know how tempting it is to try to do it all. Maybe you also want to lose weight, get fitter, cook more meals from scratch and meditate every day whilst doing yoga and a juice cleanse! But if you put pressure on yourself to do everything at once, you’ll give up before we’re even halfway through the month. So let’s keep the focus firmly on having a sober September.
I have lots of successful clients who’ve lost weight and run marathons since quitting drinking, but they didn’t try to do it all at the same time. They gave themselves permission to focus on one thing and waited until sobriety felt a bit easier before adding anything else into the mix.
Tip 2: Be patient
Trust that how you feel in the early days of sobriety is not how it’s going to be for the rest of time. Early sobriety does require some effort and commitment – but it gets so much easier with time, I promise.
After a couple of tough days it can be tempting to say, “I’m not cut out for this, I can’t continue with this forever.” But it won’t be hard forever. If your kids or grandkids are starting at a new school this month, I’m sure you’d reassure them that it won’t always feel strange and awkward – they’ll settle in! It’s the same for sober September.
Tip 3: Do your sober homework
Take a piece of paper and write down all the benefits that you think you get from drinking. All the reasons you drink. Write them in a column on one side of the page. Whether you think drinking helps you numb out, put up with your family, be more fun on date night… whatever it is, write it down.
Next, draw a line down the middle of the page and create another column, which we’re going to call “Evidence this belief might not be true”. You have plenty of examples of this belief not always being true. It’s important to notice this and work through your feelings around it, otherwise you’ll always feel a bit deprived in sobriety. One of the reasons that I enjoy my sobriety so much is because I know I’m not missing out on anything. I want to help you see alcohol for what it really is too.