When I first quit drinking, I kept thinking about everything I’d lost.
I used to wonder – will I ever get used to this? Will it always feel like something is missing?
I was so caught up in these thoughts I nearly missed what was happening right in front of my eyes.
Alcohol-free living had (quietly) started to give me more choices than I had before.
It gave me freedom. Options.
Sobriety isn’t about what you’re losing – it’s about what you’re gaining.
I explain all in this video:
Where is your focus?
When we think about sobriety, we naturally tend to zoom in on the thing that’s gone away – the alcohol. Right from the get-go, we’re in a deprivation mindset. We can be so focused on what’s gone and what we’ve lost, we miss the freedom that’s come into our lives in its place.
Practical choices and freedoms
When you’re not drinking, you can spend your money just how you want to, because you don’t have to keep fuelling your habit. You get the option of starting your day right and waking up exactly when you plan to (not at 4am!)
You can jump in the car at any time of night and call friends without worrying if they can tell you’re drinking. When you’re with others, you have the freedom to be totally focused on the present moment, rather than wondering where your next drink is coming from.
A free mind
When you’re sober, you are free from the decision hell that comes with using a drug like alcohol and trying to control your intake of it. This extra brain space gives you so many choices and options to do more and be the person you want to be.
Now more than ever, we need to be making lifestyle choices that give us maximum freedom. Alcohol puts you in a little prison – a mini lockdown of its own making, where it takes options away from you. None of us need that.
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