Why do you drink? What benefit or service are you hoping alcohol will deliver?
The answers to these questions look different for different people. But there’s one thing I can say for sure:
No matter what problem you’re trying to mask or fix, alcohol will always ensure you end up with MORE of what you don’t want.
Whether it’s boredom, loneliness or something else… alcohol is quietly creating more of that problem for you, as I explain in today’s video.
Short-term distraction, long-term pain
If you drink because you’re bored, alcohol will help you kill a bit of time initially. But in the long term, it will create more boredom for you – more of what you don’t want. Why? Because when you’re drinking, you’re far less likely to take the action needed to create a life that fulfils you. You’re probably not going to maintain your relationships properly or find new, interesting things to do. And because you’re not doing those things, you’re going to get bored again pretty quickly.
Alcohol makes any problem worse
Take any problem or trigger: stress and/or grief are good examples. In the end, alcohol always gives you more of what you don’t want. But it’s hard to see that in the moment because drinking is like plugging your brain into the matrix. Have you seen that movie with Keanu Reeves? In The Matrix, people think they have this great life. But they’re actually experiencing a simulated reality, which is there to distract them from what’s really going on.
The matrix trap
If you drink because you’re feeling lonely, alcohol won’t change that. It’s just that you’re “plugged in” to the matrix for a little while, so you notice the loneliness less. But the next morning, when you’re hungover and unplugged, that loneliness will still be there. In fact, it might even feel worse. The morning after you’ve been drinking, pretty much everything feels worse. Which is, once again, more of what you don’t want. It feels very hard to solve or fix anything when you’re recovering from drinking alcohol.
Unplugging from the matrix
Are you willing to unplug from the alcohol matrix and be present with whatever it is you keep drinking over? It’s the easier option in the long term, I promise. Allowing yourself to be present with your loneliness, stress or boredom might not be as intolerable as you think. And if it is unpleasant? It could be the push you need to create a life that you don’t need to numb out from.
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