“But I Should Be Able To Drink If I Want To!”
“I should be able to drink if I want to!” Before I quit drinking, my brain spent a long time throwing a temper tantrum about it. Sobriety felt like something I “had” to do – and the whiny, two year old part of my brain was not happy. I thought…
“I’m Not Lazy Or Stupid – Why Can’t I Figure This Out?”
“Why can’t I figure out how to quit drinking?” I must have asked myself that question so many times. In every other area of life, I was pretty good at making things happen. I wasn’t afraid of hard work and I considered myself to be a…
Taste, Tolerance And Triggering Posts
A friend of mine posted this on Facebook last week: “After Dry January, my first glass of wine tastes like 80 per cent whisky.” It’s interesting because I’ve met people in long term sobriety who still mourn the taste of their favourite alcoholic…
Don’t Forget To Tell The Other Side Of The Story
What’s the story you tell yourself the most often? I’ve noticed that many of the women who are drawn to my work are very good at doing this: judging themselves, telling untrue stories about their capabilities, thinking negative thoughts…
2 Things To Try Before Dry January Ends
Did you take part in Dry January this year? No matter what happened this month – whether you nailed it or struggled through it – I have some thoughts on what to do next. In fact, there are two things I recommend you do before February…
2020 In Review: Our Alcohol Free Highlights Of The Year
Every December I ask the women I’ve coached this question: “What’s your alcohol free highlight of the year – and is there a photo that sums up that moment?” I wasn’t sure what to expect this year, given how challenging 2020 has been…
6 Things 2020 Has Taught Us About Alcohol & Sobriety
I know so many of us will be relieved to see the back of 2020. It’s been a challenging year in many ways. But at the same time, 2020 has also brought some important life lessons with it. In fact, when it comes to booze and sobriety, there’s…
A Key Question To Transform The Fear Of Missing Out
The fear of missing out can pop up unexpectedly. Perhaps you promised yourself you wouldn’t drink, but now you’re not so sure. You’re worried you won’t have a good time if you’re sober. You don’t want to feel left out. The fear of missing out…
“But Everyone Drinks At This Time Of Year…”
“Everyone drinks at this time of year.” “I’m going to be the odd one out… If I don’t drink, I won’t have any fun.” When I was trying (and failing) to quit drinking, these thoughts played on repeat in my head. I just couldn’t imagine an alcohol free festive…
The Power Of Gratitude (And How It Affects Your Sobriety)
I don’t often talk about gratitude. If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know I prefer sharing tips, tricks and actionable advice to help you move forward with your sober goals. But the truth is, none of that stuff is going to work if…