“This is too hard for me.”
When I was struggling to quit drinking, I said this so often it almost became a mantra.
But back then, alcohol-free living really did feel like an impossible task to me.
If you’re feeling the same way, there are two things I suggest you try…
I explain more in this week’s video.
Watch your thoughts
“This is too hard,” is a thought, not a fact. We can choose to think thoughts that make us feel good, or we can let unhelpful thoughts run the show. Just becoming aware of how often you repeat this thought is a great first step. Has it become an unhelpful mantra for you?
Sobriety does require work – to begin with
Yes, it takes effort to do the myth busting and mindset work required for successful sobriety. Tackling your limiting beliefs and building sober momentum also takes work to start with. But it’s not always going to be ‘too hard’, I promise. Alcohol-free living is a very easy way of life in the long run.
Tip 1 – Tell the other side of the story
Drinking is hard work too, but we don’t tend to spend much time thinking about that! Stop using your brainpower to find reasons why sobriety is difficult and start getting clear on why using alcohol is just as tough. Get this out of your head and onto paper so you can see it in black and white.
Tip 2 – Choose your favourite hard option
Here’s the thing: if you’re suffering because of your drinking right now then you can’t avoid life being hard, no matter what you do next. If you carry on drinking, you’ve got the hangovers and guilt that comes with that. If you quit, you’ve got the work of sobriety to contend with instead. Which hard option is best? Choose the one you prefer and go for it.
Sobriety doesn’t have to be hard – it can be easy, empowering and fun. If you’re looking for help to make sobriety stick, click here for details of my online course.