When I was trying (and failing) to quit drinking, I always had a lot of angry questions for myself the morning after.
Questions like: Why on earth did I do that? Why do I keep drinking when I said I wouldn’t? Sometimes my drinking felt like a bit of a mystery. It didn’t make sense and yet I kept doing it.
Can you relate?
If you don’t know why you keep drinking, check out this week’s video.
The “I don’t know” trap
It sounds like such an innocent thought that feels so true. However, this thought will sneakily block you from your own wisdom. The truth is, your drinking always makes sense. There’s a reason you keep drinking. There was a thought and a feeling that went before the drinking and you chose to manage those with alcohol.
Commit to being curious
A big part of quitting is understanding why you do it and learning how to be curious about it. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with you. You don’t have a disease. You keep drinking because you have a coping mechanism that isn’t really working for you. So let’s drop the judgement and work out what’s happening inside your own head.
Take a guess
It doesn’t matter if your guess is wrong. What does your brain think you’re getting when you keep drinking? What if – and this is important – what if your drinking is actually just showing you the life skills that you’re missing? What if it’s just highlighting the areas you need to work on and figure out how to provide for yourself?
What skills might you need to work on? If you keep drinking because you’re bored, start thinking about how you could create more pleasure in your life, just on your own. If you keep drinking for confidence, how might you start generating that confidence from within? Or perhaps you need another way to deal with worries, anxiety and stress. What is it for you?
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