How was your Dry January?
Maybe you’re patting yourself on the back for keeping things alcohol free all month, but you’re not sure what your next steps should be?
Perhaps you’re counting down to drinking again on February 1st?
Or maybe you’re frustrated because you didn’t make it? And now you’re struggling to get back on track?
No matter what happened this month, the most important thing is how you move forward. And that’s exactly what today’s blog is all about.
If you had a great Dry January, but don’t know what to do next
It’s great that you had a good experience this month, but it’s also totally normal that you’re not ready to announce to the world, “That’s it, I’m done! I’m never drinking again.” Telling yourself you’re now going to quit forever is actually pretty pointless anyway – because it’s so overwhelming, your brain can’t visualise it.
If you wish to continue with sobriety, I recommend setting another short-term goal that you can work towards. 100 days is a great next step – a lot of good things start happening around that point! The hard, tough days of early sobriety (when everything is new and different) are behind you and you start to discover what alcohol-free living is really all about.
If you made it through Dry January, but can’t wait to drink on February 1st
Remember that there’s nothing you “should” or “have to” do here – there’s no wrong or right. But before you jump back into bed with booze, I recommend getting clear on what it is you believe you’re missing out on. Why are you so desperate to go back to drinking? There’s clearly something you believe you get from it, so what is it?
Then imagine that you’ve got to argue the other side of the story for a while. What else is also true? If you were defending this line of thinking in court, what would you say? Your brain is so lazy. It’s wired to look for evidence that supports the beliefs you already have. So why not take your brain out of autopilot and challenge some of that stuff?
If you crashed out of Dry January and feel bad
If you’re beating yourself up because things did not go to plan, I want you to know that the same thing happened to me in 2013. I did Dry January for a week before giving up! But do you know what happened later that year? I quit for good. So remember – all is not lost and you can turn things around.
If you’re ready to try again, great. Make sure you get some support though, because addiction thrives in isolation. Go get yourself on the waitlist for my next Getting Unstuck course, so we can work together, get a plan in place, give you a focused community and a space to get coached whenever you need it.
If you’re not ready to try again just yet, that’s fine. But please do this one thing: start keeping a diary. By writing down how you’re feeling, you’re gathering important data about how alcohol genuinely affects you. That’s going to be very useful information to have when you’re ready to take action again.
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