Picture the scene: you’re trying really hard to be good when, out of nowhere, you’re offered a free drink.
It might be during a flight, on holiday, at a wedding, a party, a restaurant or a work conference…
Wherever it is, there’s something about turning down booze you haven’t paid for that can be extra tough. You might feel as if you’re missing out on part of the experience or not getting your money’s worth.
So how do you say no, without feeling deprived?
That’s exactly what I’m talking about in this week’s video.
Understand the true cost of a free drink
When it comes to alcohol, there’s always a price to pay that goes beyond money – there’s a cost to your mind and body. How are you going to feel afterwards? What kind of mood will you be in if you break your sober streak? How much time will that free glass cost?
What are your standards around free stuff?
Here’s an example of what I mean. Personally, I eat meat – but only the good quality stuff. So a burger that’s stuffed with crappy ingredients doesn’t tempt me, even if it’s free. I think alcohol’s a bit like that cheap burger – it’s a cheap, low-quality drug that often creates a cheap, low-quality experience.
Don’t be afraid to ask for something else
Remember that people generally offer you a free drink to make you feel welcome, looked after or special. It comes from a well-intentioned place – so they should want to cater for your request for something different. It’s no big deal. You are perfectly entitled to ask for a drink that works for you.
Remember… how you feel will change
Please don’t be tempted to catastrophise and imagine that sobriety will be a lifetime of facing these kinds of battles. This just feels like a big deal right now because you haven’t done it before, or haven’t done it very often. This will soon become the new normal!
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