The Hidden Ways Alcohol Is Making Your Life Harder
We all know the obvious downsides of drinking. The hangovers, the things you can’t remember, the cost, the shame, the health risks and impact on your appearance. But have you ever thought about the small, hidden ways that alcohol makes your life harder without you even noticing? I’m talking about the tedious, soul-sucking, subtle problems […]
Are You Hiding Your Drinking… From Yourself?
Have you ever found yourself wondering exactly how much you drank last week, but then shrugged it off because – honestly – you’d rather not know? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. When I was drinking, I remember not only hiding it from other people, but hiding it from myself too. I know, it […]
When You’re Tempted To Give Up On Your Sober Goals
“Enough! I’m fed up. I’m done with this. I’m tired of trying not to drink. I’m just going to give up on sobriety!” Does this sound at all familiar? I’ve been there myself, so I know exactly what it feels like. But just before you slam that sober door shut and ignore any further communication […]
Why Moderating Alcohol Is Like Gambling In Vegas
Have you ever thought about the similarities between trying to moderate your drinking and gambling in a casino? I’ve spent the past few days in Las Vegas – Sin City itself. A place where the drinks flow freely, the casinos never close and the house always wins. And that got me thinking about the parallels […]
Why Drinking Won’t Give You The Valentine’s Day You Really Want
Are you wrestling with the thought of a Valentine’s Day without wine? It’s not surprising – drinking is so often tied to the idea of romance. We’ve been conditioned to believe that a candlelit dinner must include a bottle of wine and that alcohol is the secret ingredient to a special evening. So if you’re […]
Playing The Movie To The End – Are You Doing It Right?
When you’re tempted to drink, playing the movie to the end is a great idea. This means forcing yourself to think about how things will really turn out, if you have “just one drink.” (Because the truth is, it’s probably not going to be just one…) This technique of “thinking through the drink” can really […]
Thinking Of Drinking In February? Don’t Skip This Step First
Dry January is nearly over and, for many, the 1st of February – this Saturday – marks the return of “normal” drinking routines. My social media is full of people excitedly planning a “Wet February” and celebrating “getting back to normal.” But what about you? If you’re reading this, I’m guessing you feel differently. Maybe […]
2024 In Review: Our Alcohol-Free Highlights Of The Year
Every December, I invite the women I’ve been coaching at The Sober School to send me a photo of their alcohol-free highlight of the year. It might be a moment they were so glad they were sober and fully present for, or perhaps something that wouldn’t have even happened if they’d been drinking. Every picture […]
Why Managing Your Mind Is The Key To Quitting For Good
The other day I was walking around my neighbourhood admiring all the Christmas lights. It got me thinking about how much time we spend decorating, cleaning and maintaining our homes. We spend time looking after our physical property but we don’t always put the same care into the “home” we carry with us everywhere – […]
The Party Season Mindset Shift That Changes Everything
Party season is here, and with it come all those old beliefs about alcohol… “I need it to have fun…” “I won’t fit in without it.” “Everyone else will be drinking!” But here’s what nobody talks about: if you’re at a boring party, drinking just means you’re drunk at a…