When You’re Tempted To Give Up On Your Sober Goals

“I give up.” In early sobriety, there are days when it feels so tempting to say: “Enough! I’m fed up. I’m done with this. I’m tired of trying not to drink. I’m not going to bother with sobriety anymore.” I’ve been there myself, so I know…

My Partner Doesn’t Support Me (Or Think I Can Quit!)

“Whenever I try to stop drinking, my husband is really negative about it. He drinks much less than me and doesn’t understand why I can’t just have one or two like him. He’s always so sceptical about me trying to stop. He’s even bought…

Lessons In Sobriety From Romantic Comedies

It’s not very often that I have an epiphany about sobriety whilst watching a romantic comedy! I’d normally be reluctant to take ANY major life lessons from these movies… But the other day I was watching Bridget Jones’s Diary (the first…

If You’re Doing Either Of These Two Things – Stop!

I want to highlight two things that might be making your life harder right now. Particularly if you’re in early sobriety – or you’re trying to quit drinking at the moment. It’s all about the way we talk to ourselves… and what we do when…

5 Thoughts To Watch Out For After Dry January

It’s the last day of the month! Whether you found Dry January hard or easy, there are a few common thoughts that tend to pop up at this point: “If I can take a month off, does that mean I don’t have a problem?” “Will I be able to…

3 Quick Tips To Help You Stay On Track

How’s your Dry January going? By this point in the month, the goals you set at New year can seem a long time ago. If your enthusiasm for alcohol free living is waning – or you could do with a dose of motivation to keep going, I want…

2021 In Review: Our Alcohol Free Highlights Of The Year

Every December I ask the women I’ve been coaching this question: “What’s been your alcohol free highlight of the year – and is there a photo that sums up that moment?” The women I work with tend to be very private people, so it’s…

Playing Your Christmas Drinking Movie To The End

Imagine seeing your drinking up on the big screen, in a cinema. The opening scene looks fine – pretty harmless in fact. A bottle gets opened and you promise to just have one drink… But one leads to two… and you can guess what…

4 Reminders You Might Need At This Time Of Year

Alcohol seems to be everywhere at this time of year. When booze is piled high in shops and flowing freely at Christmas parties, it’s easy to feel as if you’re missing out. If you’re tempted to drink, there are four things to remember as…

“What If” Questions And Trying To Predict The Future

Before I quit drinking, I had a hundred “What if?” questions. What if I try to stop and can’t do it? What if me not drinking makes other people uncomfortable? What if they assume I’m an alcoholic? What if I never have fun again?!

“It’s Too Hard To Be Sober At This Time Of Year.”

Before I quit drinking, I spent several years trying to stop. I’d be good for a day or two – or sometimes a couple of weeks. But at this time of year – with the holiday season fast approaching – I’d convince myself it was impossible to be…

The Subtle Ways That Drinking Makes Your Life Harder

If you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol, it can be tempting to compare yourself to others. I used to love reading dramatic, rock bottom stories about other drinkers. I’d confidently reassure myself that things…